# Wise Words <span style="font-size: 13px;"> <span style="color: black;">Planted:</span> <span style="color: gray;"> 25 September 2025</span> </span> There's a quote from a good friend I made this year that has stuck with me, and I thought I'd capture it here: > *"Don't blame yourself for past decisions. At the time, you made them with all the information you had."* I'm not usually one to gain much from words themselves, no matter how well intentioned. Yet these words, for whatever reason, soothed a fair amount of ache. For the past few months, I've been blaming myself heavily for past decisions, mainly two moves that seem to have led to [[On the Loss of Love|this year's hardships]]. Naturally, I thought that if I could go back in time, I would never have made them. But this perspective unfairly relies on the knowledge of the present. The uncomfortable truth is that without the power of foresight, certain things cannot be predicted, no matter how intensely we think a decision through. At the time, with the information I had on that past timeline, those decisions simply felt right. It's the weight of the unexpected consequences that is the most pressing. I'm not blaming myself for blaming myself. I dare to say it shows care. Nonetheless, these words helped in soothing this blame and the emotional pain still associated with it. #thoughts --- <div class="button-row"> <button id="like-button"> <span class="material-symbols-outlined" id="like-icon">favorite</span> <span id="like-count">0</span> </button> <a href="Write Something" class="bookmark-link internal-link"> <button id="comment"> <span class="material-symbols-outlined" id="comment-icon">chat_bubble</span> </button> </a> </div>